This post was inspired after having a heart to heart with one of my sister friends about the concept of ex-potentials coming forth with the whole “I’m not ready for a relationship” mantra. From the title, the “with you” is usually silent because the other party clearly has a cat on their tongue or are active participants of displaying selective honesty. You know when they decide to be honest about certain truths to make themselves look like honest decent folk but in reality it’s all a farce and an illusion.
These kinds of pills are hard and frustrating to swallow especially when the potential was there but at the same time they are necessary because it means good riddance to unserious candidates. I must stress the emphasis on the word UNSERIOUS because my genuine nice ex potentials God bless you for being true gentlemen and keeping it real from the get go. Potential can only get you so far before you realise and admit that it is simply not enough. There are some of my ex-potentials that I genuinely feel that God had to intervene to lock off simply because I wasn’t going to. Regardless of that fact, we should treat people’s daughters and sons with respect as human beings. As much as this pill is necessary to swallow at times, it will be nice if we can be honest with our intentions from the get go to avoid such shenanigans. If you are honest no one can now go and call you a dishonest liar. If they do then that’s their own personal problem.
I feel like you know within yourself whether you are ready or not for such commitment so please be a decent person and stop wasting people’s prime years. Don’t bother pursuing somebody’s child If you know you aren’t serious just leave them alone to find the love of their life. Don’t be a destiny blocker because of your selfish. Also, if you decide that you are not ready for a relationship (with them) then back off lol. Don’t now go and keep pursuing casual relations ESPECIALLY when you know the other party isn’t on any of that. That is selfish, trash and in actual fact disrespectful! It’s like saying you weren’t enough for a serious relationship but I still want the option to have you when and how I want. Sort it out!
Also, don’t expect the other party to remain cordial with you if you did them dirty or they feel like you violated them. You don’t get to dictate how someone should respond to being done dirty. If you have been on the receiving end of such behaviour, I completely understand and I can empathise with your pain/frustration/anger but also understand that you deserve better and there is certainly is better out there for you. It may take time to heal but it will be worth it when better comes along. You may even be tempted to treat others how you have been treated but again please don’t do it. You may even be tempted to just use and inflict damage on the same ones who wronged you because you feel that is all they can offer or as a form of “compensation” for betraying your trust. Please DO NOT FALL FOR THIS TRAP things could get ugly and messy real quick.
Overall please be GENUINELY honest with your intentions with people when it comes to pursuing relationships you met that person alive so don’t now try and kill them with tomfoolery and nonsense.
Until next time guys,